So this week I, along with my co-author, Nina Brown, and my publisher, Ja-lene Clark, sat down for a discussion about all things FOCUS. We explored the topic from the context of S.T.A.R. (Surrender, Trust, Allow, Receive) the subject matter of our book series and dove into what focus means to us. We talked about how we cherish it and how it batters us at times (hello, focus, my perfectionistic taskmaster!).
I invite you to tune in and watch the video, paying attention to your own relationship to focus all the while.
Without focus, we have a hard time accomplishing anything concretely in our lives. With too much of it, we can actually make ourselves sick, white-knuckling our way through a forced relationship with life.
What does balanced focus look like to you?
To summarize, here’s a list of pertinent points, along with the approximate time markers on the video. I hope you get something from the discussion and find relevance in your own patterns of focus.
(5:05) Giving our primary attention to one specific thing is allowing that one singular goal or purpose to exist.
(7:00) Mastery and focus go hand in hand. Drive is generally powered by focus.
(7:50) Tenacity and stubbornness are often great friends to focus.
(8:30) Focus often begins with an innate knowing that this is our purpose. The passion from within often ignites with this knowing. Once this happens, there’s no stopping us.
(10:57) When does focus drive us too hard? When does it take over at the expense of our psychological and physical health?
(12:31) When we know we’ve done everything we can, we’ve taken every action step there is to take, now we let it fly on its own. When we’ve exhausted every possible action step, we surrender our focus.
(14:48) Nina shares her channeled transmission on the subject of focus from the Andromeda Council of Light.
(17:00) Intentional nothingness (non-action) can absolutely be a form of focus.
(18:43) Humans manifest. There’s nothing “new-agey” about it. It’s what we do.
(19:23) Quote from Buddhist teacher and author of Awakening Joy, James Baraz: “Empowerment doesn’t mean wishing or hoping something will happen. Having a vision, getting in touch with heart and body to make it happen, doing our part in helping the universe to help us… this is called focused intention.”
(20:50) Years ago author Don Miguel Ruiz (author of The Four Agreements, among others) lectured on taking “hope” out of our vocabulary. What do you think of this?
(21:55) Our focus asks us, “What do you want?” Are we being passive? Or are we standing in the center of our desires to make our purpose happen?
(22:26) Our action step is to not re-circulate over and over again the same focused desires, but to realize that when we’ve done absolutely everything we can and have exhausted every possibility in this moment, to practice appreciation and gratitude for what we have, for what we’ve accomplished, up to now.
(24:26) Focusing on what’s not here, what we don’t have, is constricting to our energy no matter how committed we are to achieving what we want. Innovation requires expansion, not constriction.
(28:01) When our focus is not working for us but against us, our body tells us so. We get sick and uncomfortable and our production is generally hindered. We become unhappy and anxious.