I work with a lot of new coaches who, like those in many other creative fields, have to endure the barrage of warnings that serve to paralyze, not encourage. “It’s so competitive!” blah, blah, blah “Don’t quit your day job!”
I have rejected these warnings as truth — they aren’t my reality — and I’m here to encourage you to do the same with what I have come to recognize as my Coaching Ten Commandments of sorts. These steps are for anyone looking to succeed at any new (or old) endeavor, including the building or growing of any entrepreneurial project, from the launch of a personal blog to a multi-million dollar business. Build your empire by remembering these few things.
You Succeed Because:
- You believe. You have to believe in yourself, your vision, your work, your soul-purpose. If you don’t believe in yourself, why would others believe in you? We can sense insecurity in others like a shark smells a Band-Aid. What will it take for you to believe in yourself? Figure it out. Find it, and do it.
- You fall in love with the idea of a thriving business. And I mean, head over heels, crazy obsessing, can’t eat/can’t sleep, every song is an anthem to our insanely beautiful vision, kind of love.
- You live your soul, not your role. Titles don’t titillate. Sometimes I like to think of myself as a soul-gardener, not a coach. We have to connect to the big glorious picture, not the day to day drudgery, in order to keep charging forward. Connecting to the big glorious picture eliminates the drudgery. Poof! In a moment, it’s vanished, because every step you take is in service to the blue-print of your own soul.
- You make it fun. Simple as that. If it isn’t fun, there’s no joy, and if there’s no joy, the batteries die. We putter out.
- You surround yourself with people who empower you. Those naysayers? They have to go. You know the difference; there’s nothing to intellectualize. There are people who make you feel like a super-hero and there are people who make you feel like crap. Recognize the power in those who boost you. This is critical. This doesn’t mean people have to agree with your every move. But they have to give you room to do your own exploration without raining their own personal projections of doom over your head. Their reality is not your reality. Know this to be true.
- You avoid the destructive “stories”. There’s a story playing over and over in your mind like a broken record. Is it building you up? Or tearing you down. If your stories are destructive, write some new ones. Have dialogue with them, ask what they want from you. Do what it takes, but do it. You’re killing yourself and your vision with these same old tired boring stories.
- You aren’t afraid to earn money elsewhere. For a set period of time, give yourself permission to do whatever you need to do to get your basic needs covered. Downsize your life so you don’t have to work a part-time job if you like. Do what it takes to get out of that constant energy of fear and compression that comes with having no idea how you’re going to pay the cable bill with the Game of Thrones season premier looming! The Universe doesn’t buy into our stories of … “oh gosh if I go get another job I’ll be telling the world that I’m not ready to… blah blah blah!” The Universe doesn’t care about our stories. The Universe reads our energy. If you’re constantly feeling the drag of “I have no money”, then you are ordering up more of that, from that awesome menu of yucky stuff, thank you very much.
- You surround yourself with positive energy. Listen to Hay House Radio or Podcasts of people who inspire you. Listen to books on CD while driving in the car. Read empowering words, listen to music that makes you feel good and powerful and alive. Watch movies that make you laugh and feel your spirit. Each moment is an opportunity to build or break. Use your moments wisely.
- You leave perfectionism at the door! Perfectionism is another word for fear. We all feel it. Get over yourself and just take one step forward. It’s a lesson we are all meant to master.
- Walk the walk. People can smell inauthenticity from a galaxy away. Find a way to pay for the own services you need, to keep you aligned with your goals, visions, and purpose. If you won’t prioritize for yourself, why should another prioritize for you?
(This post brought to you by insomnia. See? There’s a silver lining to everything!)