We’re dropping deeper into this pandemic experience, watching the experience become something new every day.
Our triggers are being pushed, sometimes by the most unlikely sources.
Yesterday I ventured to the grocery store for the first time in awhile, and was a little stunned to find that my brand of eco-friendly automatic dishwashing detergent was gone. In fact, the shelves were completely bare. There was one last lonely little bag of ten detergent tabs, and I grabbed it with a disturbing urgency. My husband mumbled his confusion, “What. So, everybody is actually washing their dishes now or something? Weird.”
It’s surreal, in our land of excess, to be told “No”.
“There will be no dishwashing detergent for you today.”
We’re so used to things just being there when we need them. (Without often contemplating the negative ramifications of that level of convenience.)
It’s strange that something so silly could rattle me.
But it’s not silly, is it, when you weave into it the greater understanding: Our life has changed.
Our world has changed. We have no idea where all of this is going.
Highly Sensitive People are empathic. We’re not only processing our stuff; we’re also witnessing the energy of the people around us experiencing their own triggering events. This means certain days can feel like emotional whiplash, sensing multiple things simultaneously. Trying to force an ego understanding of it can overwhelm our system, resulting in a flooding of low-frequency energy (confusion, irritability, exhaustion, unexplained agitation… even joint and spinal pain).
To shine some light back into your energy field, please consider a daily spiritual practice of these Five Things:
1.) Stop Judging Yourself. There is nothing you should be feeling right now, besides just about every human emotion possible. Let yourself feel whatever it is you’re feeling, without adding to it some unkind assessment of how that emotion somehow defines you as a human being.
2.) Witness The Emotion. Do not identify with it. Let the emotion come and go, like a breeze you were never meant to control. Understand that our emotions are not an indication of the truth. If our inner critic is running wild, because we’re overwhelmed and exhausted, and it’s telling you you’re somehow lacking…do not allow it to convince you it’s speaking from some place of higher wisdom. The truth is, you’re probably just tired.
3.) Understand This– You definitely NEED MORE REST RIGHT NOW. Schedule in “do nothing” if that’s what you’re feeling you need. There is nothing that replenishes energy like simply unplugging every now and then, even if you’re doing so frequently– that’s okay. I’m honestly not concerned about you doing too little during a global pandemic which happens to be ushering us into an entirely new world. I’m more concerned about you piling on the unfair burden of expectation to an already stressed nervous system.
4.) Nature, Nature, Nature. Give your potted plant a gentle leaf bath (they love that!), take a walk, sit on your deck with your dog lying on her cozy bed right next to you, hug a tree (you bet I do that regularly), feel the sun on your face, pull some invasive weeds (but leave the dandelions because bees need them this time of year!), build a medicine wheel with stones, feed the birds, get up and watch the sunrise, bury your hands in sand, walk barefoot in an isolated mountain stream, see if you can connect with the energy of your favorite rock (please tell me I’m not the only one with a favorite rock!), light a candle and watch the flame dance…I could go on and on. Even the small act of listing these few nature ideas up-shifted my energy frequency, and reading them will start the process for you too.
5.) Still Your Mind. Whether you call it meditation, contemplation, or prayer (I happen to practice all three)– spend some time every day doing less and being more. Insight Timer is my favorite app for guided meditations and contemplative support. I highly recommend it. Start with guided meditations, ten minutes a day. There’s no such thing as doing it wrong in the beginning. Simply rest and listen. Create the sacred space, and your spirit will do the rest.
Please know you’re not alone. Please sense the deeper meaning in all of this (it’s actually quite beautiful). And never, ever hesitate to reach out to me if you need something. For now, if you care to share in the comments which of these five things you find most challenging, I would love your thoughts. Every word you choose to share, I guarantee will offer comfort to somebody else in need, possibly too shy to speak out.
So Much Love,