How We Succeed – 10 Steps

A Mindset Manifesto

I work with new coaches who, like those in many other creative fields, have to endure short-sided warnings that serve to paralyze, not encourage. “It’s so competitive out there!” blah, blah, blah “Don’t quit your day job!”

I have rejected these warnings, myself–they aren’t my reality–and I’m here to encourage you to do the same.

In fact, I have written a focus-on-your-success blueprint that I have followed devotedly since the first day I opened my private practice. I invite you to adopt it for yourself–anything to keep yourself from listening to somebody else’s fear stories. 

These steps are for anyone looking to succeed at any new (or old) endeavor, including the building or growing of any entrepreneurial project, from the launch of a personal blog to a multi-million dollar business.

Build your empire by remembering these few universal truths.

You Succeed Because:

• You believe. You have to believe in yourself, your vision, your work, your Why, your purpose. If you don’t believe in yourself, why would anyone else? We can sense insecurity like a shark smells a Band-Aid. What will it take for you to trust your vision? I mean deeply. At a cellular level? Figure this question out. Devote yourself to the pursuit of your own confidence. 
• You fall in love with the idea of a thriving business. And I mean, head over heels, crazy obsessed, can’t eat/can’t sleep, every song is an anthem to your insanely beautiful vision, kind of love.
• You live your soul, not your role. Titles don’t titillate. Sometimes I like to think of myself as a soul-gardener. I provide warmth, some sparkle, I nourish and feed the spirit, and point out the weeds in need of pulling. We have to connect to the big glorious picture, not the day to day, in order to stay energized and fulfilled. This is a long-game. 
• You make it fun. Simple as that. If it isn’t fun, there’s no joy, and if there’s no joy, your batteries die. You’ll putter out. I call this the Sparkle Factor, and people can feel it! Your business has to bring you delight on some level! 
•  You surround yourself with people who empower you.  The glass-is-always-empty people… Those who tell you how hard it will be for you to succeed? They have to go. There are people who make you feel like anything is possible (because it is), and there are people who make you feel deflated. Start paying attention. Recognize the legitimate power in those who boost you. This is critical. This doesn’t mean people have to agree with your every move. But they have to give you room to embark on your own exploration without pummeling you with their own personal projections of doom. 
• You avoid the destructive “stories”. There’s a story that silently runs in the back of your mind, like hidden software. This is your self-concept, what you think you’re capable of, what you think you’re ready for. Is your internal dialogue building you up? Or tearing you down. If this inner monologue is destructive, if it’s keeping you from trying something new, from being courageous and innovative, you’re going to have to write a new one. Nothing can kill your vision like self-doubt. 
•  You aren’t afraid to earn money elsewhere. Look, it takes awhile for any new business to hit its financial stride. For a set period of time, give yourself permission to do whatever you need to do to get your basic needs covered. Downsize your life for a bit so you don’t have to work a part-time job, if that works for you. Do what it takes to get out of the money consciousness of fear or lack. Don’t fall into the trap of– “Oh gosh, if I go get another job I’ll be telling the Universe I’m not fully open to…” blah blah blah, nonsense. The Universe isn’t superstitious; it simply reads our energy. If you’re constantly feeling the emotional drag of financial insecurity, then the Universe will deliver more of that until you take some kind of action to transform that feeling. 
• You surround yourself with positive energy. Listen to a book by an author who inspires you, or Podcasts that feel motivating, while you drive, walk, or do laundry. Read empowering words, listen to music that makes you feel your own vitality. Watch movies that make you laugh and feed your spirit. Each moment is an opportunity to build or break your energy state. Pay attention to what your mind is consuming. 
• You leave perfectionism at the door! Perfectionism is another word for fear. We all feel it. We have to learn to get over ourselves and just take one messy step forward, over and over again. 
• Walk the walk. People can smell inauthenticity from a galaxy away. Put yourself first. Hire the services you need to stay aligned with your goals, visions, and growth. You have to learn to prioritize yourself before others can prioritize you.

How we succeed

We succeed by staying focused on why an idea matters, what benefit it brings the world, the problems it will solve, and how it makes us feel. 

How we succeed is about knowing what we need to keep our mindset resourced, our creative thinking energized, and our problem-solving resilient. 

I hope my blueprint helps you as much as it helped me to stay connected to my reason, my intention, and my purpose. 

Much Love. 

Kristy 

P.S. ~ Are you finding that some of these points are a little too difficult?  I can help with that!